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The Pause Effect

Take the time. Meet in the pause. Feel the effect.

Online Therapy for Whatever Stage You're In

I just don't feel like myself anymore.

Whether that's new, confusing, or something you've felt for years without a name — this is where we start. No script, no assumptions.

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The pause is where you stop performing and start noticing — long enough to actually meet yourself.

The
Approach

01

You won't be pathologized.

You're not broken. You've been adapting. We look at what those adaptations cost you now.

02

Honesty goes both ways.

I'll tell you what I'm noticing. You tell me when I've got it wrong. That's how this works.

03

The pause is the point.

Between thought and reaction lives everything. That's the space we work in.

About

Some people find this work. I think I just grew into it.

I've been this person since elementary school — the one people ended up talking to on the playground without either of us quite knowing why. It's just always been who I am. I'm Lori, and I finally made it official: I'm a Registered Therapeutic Counsellor (RTC), and The Pause Effect is what that turned into.

I've lived enough of my own life by now to know that things change without asking permission — a body that stops behaving the way it used to, a mind that doesn't always feel like your own, the quiet career standoff between quitting and climbing when neither one feels possible anymore, friendships that shift shape without warning, a marriage, becoming a parent, the people who raised you starting to need you the way you once needed them, the strange weight of holding everyone together while no one's holding you. The person you thought you'd always be doesn't seem to be there anymore. Somewhere in all of that is a version of you worth finding again — joy included.

I'm not meeting you from a textbook. Whatever stage you're in — still sorting out who you are in your twenties, or feeling the ground shift again in perimenopause and midlife — this is who I built this for.

My approach draws from Humanistic, Person-Centred modalities, alongside theoretical orientations like Feminist Theory and Trauma-Informed Care. In practice, that just means I pay attention to the whole person, not the symptom.

Registered Therapeutic Counsellor (RTC) Training

Family therapy
Trauma recovery
Narrative therapy
Multicultural counselling

Continuing Education

Complex trauma and Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy with Frank Anderson
Relational Life Therapy (RLT) with Terry Real

Work with me

Let's find out
what's underneath.

A free 15-minute consult. No pressure, no commitment — just a real conversation.

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Having trouble booking? Email me directly at lori@thepauseeffect.ca